Have you ever had a difficult decision to make and your head was telling you one thing while your heart was telling you another?

Recently, I had an opportunity to experience this for myself.

My son, Sam, who just finished kindergarten, was registered for French Immersion. His sister, Maggie, had just completed Grade 2 French and loved every minute of this experience. When my husband and I had decided to place Maggie in Immersion, it required some thought and discussion with the school and other parents. For anyone who has talked to parents regarding their views on French Immersion, you know that there are many opinions and in the end you just have to do what will work best for you and your child.

Because Maggie was in Immersion, we automatically placed Sam in it with little hesitation. He was a strong student and loved school. Although, initially shy, quickly warmed up and made some great friends. When I announced to Sam that he would be going into Immersion and moving to a different school for Grade One, he just nodded in agreement.

The decision to do this - which was once clear - quickly became more difficult. Sam soon found out that his three very best friends (in the whole wide world) were remaining in the English program and that is where he was going to stay!

Here is where the head versus the heart comes in. For the next few months my head spoke to me. My head told me that he would quickly make new friends; it doesn’t make sense to keep him back from this opportunity because his friends aren’t going, he would be in a different program than his sister, and on and on my head spoke very clear and logical explanations as to why I should stick with my decision.

Move over head, here comes the heart. As strong and clear as the reasoning of my head, the emotion of my heart was stronger. It became increasingly clear to me that I needed to listen to it. Yes, my son was only 6 but he knew exactly what he wanted. His heart was telling him, he wanted to be with his friends. I knew I could always choose Late Immersion. I knew that Sam would learn French fluently at some point in his life. Maybe it would be more difficult later on, I understood this. However, knowing he was starting Grade One, running onto the bus, excited to be with his three best friends, that to me was far more important.

When my husband and I finally let our heart win, all our anxieties and worries quickly melted away. When we told others, not everyone agreed with this decision, however when a mother knows in her heart what is best for her child that is all she needs to listen to.

Will Sam remain friends with these young boys? Who knows? All I know is that I have given him an opportunity that feels right for our family. In the grand scheme of things, in the words of Robert Fulghum from “All I ever really needed to know I learned in kindergarten”, Sam has learned the most important lesson already from these three boys…”When you go out into the world, it is best to hold hands and stick together.” I have just given him another chance to practice.

So next time you have a difficult decision to make, no matter what area of life it may be in, listen for what feels right. Keep in mind that our head can be very influential but our heart never lies.

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