Now that our family vacation is coming to an end, I  feel like I am beginning a new year, instead of a new season.  The back to school process always snaps me back into a regular routine that summer and vacation has gotten me out of.  Many other Moms often feel the same way.

The end of summer becomes for many, not just for moms, a reminder of how quickly summer and our lives pass us by.  Our children are going into a new grade and we ask ourselves, “where did the years go?”

The part of summer that I have a hard time letting go off is the laid back, less hectic way of living.  Schedules are not as rigid, vacations are enjoyed and everyone you meet seems to be moving at a much slower pace.

So how can you take a part of your summer and carry it over into the fall months?

Take a mini vacation.  Vacations do not have to be saved for summer.  A few day trips on the weekends in October can be a welcome treat for parents and kids alike. Call it a vacation and treat it like that. Get out your calendar and pick a day. It is always great to have something to look forward to.

Keep a check on your attitude.  What is your perspective you carry into the fall months?  Is it all about the crazy schedule, lunches to pack, snow coming, crazy Christmas season??  It is our attitude that causes our stress so if you are dreading the summer months coming to an end, do an inventory of what your thoughts are.  Maybe it’s time, as they say, for an “attitude adjustment”

Slow down. With fall registrations for activities coming up, our schedules will soon be full. I know for our family, the fall is a very busy time as judo, dance and hockey starts up. Because of hectic schedules, it is very important to remember to take the time to slow down. Make sure you include some time to relax at home.  Being busy is fine as long as  you enjoy what you are doing and if it is balanced out with some down time.  If you or your kids are involved in activities that you don’t ‘LOVE”, consider dropping them.  If you are spending time and energy on these things, make sure you really enjoy them.                   

Summers are amazing and being away from our regular routines is what many of us need in order to recharge.  The thing is, if we live for our summers or for our next vacation, it means we are “not living” for the majority of our lives because our summer and vacations make up a small portion of our year. Enjoying what’s in front of us is really what true living is all about. And yes, that includes snow shoveling, making lunches, carting kids half way around the province and fighting with them to do their homework. And on the days when you feel like pulling your hair out…keep in mind “this too shall pass”, pour yourself a Moose Light Lime, slap on some sunless tanning lotion, crank up Bon Jovi’s “Summer Time” and dream of the lazy, hazy days of summer that are just around the corner!           

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Have you ever had a difficult decision to make and your head was telling you one thing while your heart was telling you another?

Recently, I had an opportunity to experience this for myself.

My son, Sam, who just finished kindergarten, was registered for French Immersion. His sister, Maggie, had just completed Grade 2 French and loved every minute of this experience. When my husband and I had decided to place Maggie in Immersion, it required some thought and discussion with the school and other parents. For anyone who has talked to parents regarding their views on French Immersion, you know that there are many opinions and in the end you just have to do what will work best for you and your child.

Because Maggie was in Immersion, we automatically placed Sam in it with little hesitation. He was a strong student and loved school. Although, initially shy, quickly warmed up and made some great friends. When I announced to Sam that he would be going into Immersion and moving to a different school for Grade One, he just nodded in agreement.

The decision to do this - which was once clear - quickly became more difficult. Sam soon found out that his three very best friends (in the whole wide world) were remaining in the English program and that is where he was going to stay!

Here is where the head versus the heart comes in. For the next few months my head spoke to me. My head told me that he would quickly make new friends; it doesn’t make sense to keep him back from this opportunity because his friends aren’t going, he would be in a different program than his sister, and on and on my head spoke very clear and logical explanations as to why I should stick with my decision.

Move over head, here comes the heart. As strong and clear as the reasoning of my head, the emotion of my heart was stronger. It became increasingly clear to me that I needed to listen to it. Yes, my son was only 6 but he knew exactly what he wanted. His heart was telling him, he wanted to be with his friends. I knew I could always choose Late Immersion. I knew that Sam would learn French fluently at some point in his life. Maybe it would be more difficult later on, I understood this. However, knowing he was starting Grade One, running onto the bus, excited to be with his three best friends, that to me was far more important.

When my husband and I finally let our heart win, all our anxieties and worries quickly melted away. When we told others, not everyone agreed with this decision, however when a mother knows in her heart what is best for her child that is all she needs to listen to.

Will Sam remain friends with these young boys? Who knows? All I know is that I have given him an opportunity that feels right for our family. In the grand scheme of things, in the words of Robert Fulghum from “All I ever really needed to know I learned in kindergarten”, Sam has learned the most important lesson already from these three boys…”When you go out into the world, it is best to hold hands and stick together.” I have just given him another chance to practice.

So next time you have a difficult decision to make, no matter what area of life it may be in, listen for what feels right. Keep in mind that our head can be very influential but our heart never lies.

Balance, Family, Wellness

As women, we are often sharing our life experiences and knowledge in the form of advice. We generously volunteer information that may help a friend, co-worker or family member.

While doing a personal growth exercise during a course I was taking, I was asked the question, “What life advice would you give yourself?” Giving others advice often comes naturally, however, this question took some contemplating. I started thinking about what words of wisdom I would want my children to know.

Here is what I wrote:

Follow your dreams. Keep your goals in view. Live the life you want to live and do whatever it takes to make that happen. Don’t allow fear to consume you; instead let it propel you forward. Celebrate the successes no matter how small because small successes can be just as sweet as the big ones. Stay positive because negativity can kill your dreams and prevent you from reaching your goals. Life is all about choices. You decide how you want it to play out. Choose wisely. Concentrate each day on making a difference in someone else’s life. Nurture your relationships as they are truly what counts in this lifetime. Laugh and laugh some more. Live each day with your priorities in mind. Do not allow guilt to consume your life. Stop doing long enough to enjoy being. Lighten up and don’t take life so seriously, enjoy the process. Share your love through kind words, thoughtfulness and affection. Hug those you love and smile at strangers. Relish the memories of every stage of your child’s life. Be good to yourself everyday. Feed your body and mind with the best. Relax, deep breathe and give yourself a break. Strive to be happy, not perfect. Always be grateful and live in the moment. Tomorrow will take care of it self. Take every opportunity to spend time with those you love. The housework will always be there but those you love may not. Last but not least, pray a little every day.

Would any of this advice make a difference in your life? What wise words would you write for yourself or for your children?

The best advice I have ever heard can be summed up in a few words. They hang above the door of my living room and I read them daily…Live Well, Laugh Often, Love Much. I cannot give myself or anyone else better advice than that.

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Are you searching for happiness?

Are you always chasing success?

Do you compare your life to others and long for what they have?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, you are not alone. Many women are on a journey to find more satisfaction and purpose in their lives. As a coach, that is exactly what I help many of my clients discover. One of the first places I get them to start is with gratitude-to recognize the good that is already present in their daily lives. Gratitude is a key ingredient for a happy and satisfying life.

In today’s society, it is often the pursuit of achieving more that many people concentrate on. Expressing gratitude for the blessings in life may not come easy for some. We so often forget how good we have it until tragedy or stressful circumstances occur.

The desire to have more abundance in your life is normal, however when you are unable to appreciate and be grateful for what you already have, the ability to enjoy life is affected.

Take note of people you know who are truly happy and passionate about life. What makes them happy? Is it because of what they have or is it because they appreciate and are truly grateful for what they have?

What you focus on expands so if you want more blessings to come into your life, give thanks for the ones that you already have. Consider and express all the abundance in your life. Cultivating an attitude of gratitude allows you to feel blessed even during the most hectic and stressful days.

Stop waiting for things to be perfect, all the bills to be paid, the successful job to come and that model figure. Start taking stock now and begin appreciating what is right in front of you. This moment is your life and you can decide whether you appreciate it or complain about it.

To feel balanced and content in life may require you to make many changes. Some may be big changes. The one small thing however, that can totally transform you and change how you live your life is to be grateful.

Start recording or reflecting on a daily basis what you have to be grateful for. Consistent reflection and expression of gratitude will change your outlook on life. Negative people rarely consider their blessings and positive people never forget theirs. You get to choose which one you want to be. Gratitude doesn’t cost a cent, takes little time, and you can start immediately.

What are you waiting for?

Balance, Family, Wellness

This past weekend I attended another family wedding in P.E.I. Canada (I have 10 siblings and 30 nieces and nephews!) . Besides the opportunity of having a weekend away, there were many other positive contributors to my great weekend. Most importantly, I was reminded of the four essentials of a memorable summer and life, really.

Family

There is nothing that replaces the bond of a loving and connected family. This weekend, looking around at the legacy that had been created by my parents, inspired me to always find ways(excluding having 11 children however!!!) to make time for strengthening and nurturing my most precious possessions. Seeing generations of families interact by laughing, crying, chatting and dancing created a photo album of memories in my mind.

Friends

Being able to say you have friends that feel like family is a blessing in anyone’s life. Friendships are an integral part of our health and well-being. Spending time with friends connecting, sharing and laughing can reduce stress tremendously. Friends can positively increase the quality of your life. They are a continuing source of joy and give you support on days when you think no one else understands.

Fun

Creating opportunities for fun is an essential part of a successful and fulfilling life. The ability to laugh and enjoy yourself in any environment will enhance your sense of wellness and positively affect your health. There is nothing better for the soul than an occasion where laughter and fun is the evening’s highlight. Relax and don’t take yourself or life too seriously.

Food

In my opinion, the way to anyone’s heart is through their stomach!!! A social occasion without great food just doesn’t seem complete. Food is the magnet for good times and passionate conversation. Having a delicious meal in the company of wonderful friends and family has given me many of life’s sweetest memories (also a few unwanted pounds!!!).

So this summer, make sure to create and schedule many opportunities for these essentials. Believe me; life can’t get much better than spending time with family and friends, having fun and eating great food!!!

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